' mean anyway? I work, provide for myself, meet my bills alone and have been able to keep our home, have inner peace [most of the time lol], have come to know myself like never before, have good friends, etc., etc., but just because I am not looking for another relationship, people still tell me, "Judy, it really is time that you move on, you know." Does the quality of my life depend on having someone else in my life? This really makes me laugh at how silly that statement is.
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Moving On
What does 'move on
' mean anyway? I work, provide for myself, meet my bills alone and have been able to keep our home, have inner peace [most of the time lol], have come to know myself like never before, have good friends, etc., etc., but just because I am not looking for another relationship, people still tell me, "Judy, it really is time that you move on, you know." Does the quality of my life depend on having someone else in my life? This really makes me laugh at how silly that statement is.
' mean anyway? I work, provide for myself, meet my bills alone and have been able to keep our home, have inner peace [most of the time lol], have come to know myself like never before, have good friends, etc., etc., but just because I am not looking for another relationship, people still tell me, "Judy, it really is time that you move on, you know." Does the quality of my life depend on having someone else in my life? This really makes me laugh at how silly that statement is.
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I agree with you. When people say, "Move on", they usually mean to put the beloved person whom you've lost behind you and "move on" to find a person to replace that loss. To me, to actively seek smacks of desperation and lack of acceptance of the loss... and of one's own inner self. "just find someone to fill the void". It took a lifetime for you and Nicholas to find one another...and neither of you were searching. Perhaps you will be blessed again...if not, you and Nicholas shared something that most people never even know can exist. I know you still embrace that love and that it is a part of your soul. How dare anyone give you a timetable or a prescription to "move on". You are moving on...taking care of yourself, family, and friends and being a caring and productive human being. God bless!
ReplyDeleteMove on? You move on when u work, eat, survive.... and a list of other things u have accomplished. To forget your pain is to "act" like it didn't happen. So if being "Fake" Is good, I am so "Bad"!! I'm here with you J. Luv ya
ReplyDeleteHey Richie, I'm here with you too. Thanx, Judy
ReplyDeletem on the similar lines as u Judy.. n though i have moved on i dont know y people expect me to jump into a relationship when m not able to forget the earlier one.. n if i want to cling on to those memories, y am i not being allowed to?? will i know myself better or others??
ReplyDeleteHey Anwesha, First off, I am sorry for what you are going through. I thought I had posted a blog about the silly things that people say, but in looking over my entries, I see that I did not do that yet. I will do that tonight, but for now, I will say that you are absolutely right - no one knows us better than ourselves. And good for you to not listen to what others say. I will enter my complete blog on this topic and 'clinging to the past' LOL tonight and hope you come back to check it out. The bottom line is that they just want us to be 'happy' because seeing us 'in pain' gives them pain and they are uncomfortable with that. Have a great day and hopefully I'll see you back later.
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